Pancakes and Carrot Cake get in a fight

If Pancakes and Carrot Cake had a battle, who would win? If you’ve been around me the last decade you probably know that I love these two dishes with a passion. I’m on a secret mission to introduce Carrot Cake into the lives of those who never experienced its goodness before. Pancakes are one of my simple pleasures to enjoy with a friend and have discussions about life purpose and philosophy. I like both.

Both are sweet.

Both are filling.

Both are fattening.

Truth is I shouldn’t be eating either one. I’ve rationalized that I can enjoy on occasion if I am doing the right work with my diet and exercise. Do you have any simple pleasures?

The thing is that these two simple pleasures could be destructive or extremely motivating. It all depends on how I use them.

Do you have any pleasures in your life like that? What are they?

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Fail Faster and Better

When was the last time you failed at something?

Or have you settled into the safe and steady zone?

I read articles from startup ventures and entrepreneurs that talk about all the learnings that come from failures. Failure is something we rarely talk about. I mean, look at your Facebook feed for a minute. How many of those posts are about failing at something? I see tons of posts of accomplishments and milestones but not much about when someone has failed at something.

My guess at why we don’t want to talk about failure

1. an uninvited pity party may emerge

2. feelings of embarrassment may rise

3. we really want to forget about it.

The reality

We learn most when we fail at something. It becomes part of who are are on the road to success.

Others can learn from those failures. It might be time to share a little more about those downturns.

You might actually get more support and help when you let people know what is going on.

All the business books talking about failing forward. Should we do the same in our life?

What if we learned to embrace failure as a positive thing, we learn to fail faster and better. There is a thought?

Attituning: Business


Are you getting on or off the train?

An interesting short piece from Seth Godin relating marketing to a train.

via Seth Godin on Typepad

Internet marketing mistakes creatives make

I meet a lot of artists, videographers and other creative types and they ask me about getting online. Most quickly fall into the “i have a site” response. Found this nice little piece on common mistakes to avoid when getting online.

via lateralaction.com

Attituning: Personal Development


What happens inside the mind of a procrastinator?

This TED talk dives into the mind of a procrastinator. I’ve been there before and battle this mindset regularly. Maybe by understanding what is going on inside we can change the result outside. You think?

via TED

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Do you know when to STOP?

I was listening to a sermon by Pastor Keith Battle over at Zion Church. He was talking about six reflective questions for those that “got work to do”

One keyword that stuck out in my mind the most was STOP. Do you know when to take a break and just stop doing work?

Last week I was not able to get the attuning weekly out because I was sick in bed and just couldn’t get everything done. This was a time to probably stop and take a break. I felt guilty. I just battled through food poisoning and the flu, sick in bed and yet I still felt guilt for not being able to get all the work I wanted to do done. Crazy, right?

I was feeling anxiety to get my free training series over at https://simplewp.co published and available. I wanted to make sure that I could publish the official course on time.

At the same time I fell behind in marketing and was trying to play catch up. Plus a few other client things that needed to get done.

In retrospect I should have just taken a pause and rested. There are a few things I’ve reflected on in the past two weeks.

  • Just because you can be contacted by clients doesn’t mean you need to respond and do stuff immediately
  • There will always be more than enough work to do. You might as well make sure you take care of yourself.
  • Working remotely has its own set of benefits and challenges to overcome.
  • If you can’t give 100% check whether you need to take a break so that you can.
  • Get good at starting and stopping. Know when and how to do so at the right time.

Think for a minute: On a scale of 1-10, how good are you at stopping and resting from your daily work?

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Attituning: Inspiration


 

What kind of legacy will you leave? [Photo] 

via michaelhyatt.com

From 2003 to 2016: The Astounding Growth of Podcasting [Infographic]

via coppyblogger.com

3 Ways To Find The Eye Of Your Hurricane

via pickthebrain.com

 

Attituning: Body


 

A 10-Minute Total-Body Workout for Busy Days

via charismamag.com


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A storm is coming. Are you ready?

Have you ever felt like something is coming? Something big?

It makes you feel nervous and excited at the same time. You can plan for it, but aren’t really sure what will happen when things play out. That’s the characteristic of a storm. I’m sure you’ve seen the movies.

This week I was hit with some food poisoning out of nowhere. The worst timing EVER. I’ve got a new video training series about to launch at simplewp.co, was just about to get on a plane to go to kyoto, and a new semester beginning at a college I’ll be lecturing at. This storm was an unexpected one. Getting through the illness was the easy part.

What I’m talking about is seeing the start of of this new training series launch. I feel that it is going to be big. I’ve done a lot of planning in my mind, but I’m not sure how it will play out when everything is said and done. I had someone randomly contact me yesterday about the exact topic I am preparing to release. Funny.

Question: What storm do you see on your horizon?

I’m going to embrace this storm, try to keep moving forward and hope for the best. What else can we do?

I’ll leave you with a few lyrics from Rob V:

I see a storm is coming
I’m gonna walk right through
there’s no right solution
nothing left to do
I’m gonna dive in to my heart  

Want the rest? let me know and I’ll ask him.

 

Attituning: Mind


If you are your authentic self, you have no competition

When we think about business or building a website, almost ALL of the planning tools have you analyze the competition. What if there really was no competition? Your business is as unique as you are to the world. As a leader of the mission your are driving you bring a certain combination of strengths and skills to the table that you can play with. Maybe we should be looking over our shoulders less and start trailblazing forward more.

via inc.com 

Are you self-reliant? Think again

“a growing body of psychological evidence that indicates that supportive social contact, interaction and inclusion are fundamentally important to a minimally decent human life and, more deeply, to human wellbeing.”

via aeon.co

Attituning: location independence


 

Officeless work

Internet businesses are starting to move toward having no offices at all. This podcast gives a little insight into what that looks like. You still have to have meetings and collaborate with people, right? Maybe your office can also implement some of the strategies and eliminate a lot of overhead: the building space.

via tropicalmba.com 


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Is Love a verb, noun or adjective?

Is Love a Verb, a Noun or an Adjective?

Since Valentine’s day just past I thought it was worth reflecting on what love is. Here are my sources of wisdom.

The Bible:
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient,love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

John Mayer:
Love is a verb
It ain’t a thing
It’s not something you own
It’s not something you scream

When you show me love
I don’t need your words
Yeah love ain’t a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain’t a thing
Love is a verb

Do you have any quotes or passages that help you define love?


 

Updates from parisalaw.com

Website Building Training in two weeks

I’m putting the finishing touches on a new online training course for those who want to learn how to build a website that is simple and professional looking. (Secret: There is a free training series for those who are signed up)

more details at parisalaw.com

 

Attituning: Love


 

Learn from the children… or not.

Jimmy Kimmel did a short video on what kids would say love is. It’s an interesting watch.

-via youtube

Can love be three things?

There was a hypothesis put out there that says love is related to sex, attraction or long-term attachment. Does that sum it up? It might be pretty close.

via theanatomyoflove.com

 

Attituning: Love in business/career


 

Love your….co-workers

Love yourself with compassion. Love your peeps with committment. Love the work you do by becoming more competent. Love everyone around you with kindness. Some really nice advice in this article for taking love to the workplace.

via lollydaskal.com

A manager can love his team too!

Most times managers feel like they need to be tough and rigid to get results. Research has shown that a little love can go a long way. This article taught me a few ways to show love to my team. Saying something as simple as, “I trust you” can go a long way.

via inc.com


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WordPress training series is two weeks away

I’m excited and nervous at the same time. I’ve working on my own wordpress websites for years. I started helping others build their own. Now I’m releasing a solution that helps creative pros build their own website using wordpress from scratch. This is going to be awesome.

Free gift available

As the build up stage progresses I’m offering a free gift for those who are interested. Head over to https://simplewp.co to get signed up.

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Clearing the rubble

A house is built on a foundation

This foundation is developed into floors. It becomes a place for living and creating memories.

But what happens when tragedy hits? Earthquake, tornado, fire, or something of that kind?

The house is destroyed. It falls and becomes inhabitable.There are two options: Rebuild or Go find a new place.

Rebuilding requires clearing out all that old rubble, checking the foundation, then making a plan to build on top of what used to be. Clearing that rubble is not easy. It usually requires help. A lot of effort and time could be spent only to find that the foundation is no longer usable. Was it a waste?

It’s easier to just go out and buy a new house, right?

What our lives are like houses?

We go through tragedy, sometimes earthshaking. Unfortunately it’s not so easy for us to just buy a new place. We’ve got to clear out the rubble from the experience, check the foundation to see if it is still strong and make a plan to build on what used to be. One thing to keep in mind is that all that rubble can take forever to sort through and clear if you are doing it alone. We need help.

Have you been trying to clear out some rubble in your life and avoiding asking for help? Something to think about.

Let’s take it a bit further. What if your life has multiple houses, each representing a different area of your life?
Relationships, Finances, Health, Learning, Career, Family. Hows the foundation?

 

Attituning: Mind


Find a quiet place and close the door

“Science shows that we overestimate how much we need people and underestimate the value of solitary experiences.”

via lifehack.org

Are you still trying to multitask?

I think the only people that can multitask with good performance are Moms, bartenders and drummers. Sometimes I catch myself trying to fill my plate with so many things. Then I end up getting very little done.

via medium.com

Get a life. Not just a career

So many people our age are focused on driving career goals that we forget about the simple things life brings. What would it take to find that balance? Or is it an impossible dream to balance life and career?

via time.com

Time to release the past.

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.” ― Bil Keane 

via lifehack.org

Attituning: Body


19 ways you can tune into your body

Found a few techniques that I use to tune into my body. Which ones do you use?

via mindbodygreen.com

Attituning: location independence


Turn business ideas into reality like Pat Flynn

An interesting podcast episode with Pat Flynn, the man behind smart passive income. He has been a pioneer in empowering others to start generating income on line – passively.

via problogger.net


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What does it mean to let go?

The topic of letting go has come up multiple times this week. Several friends have told me that this year was a good year for learning how to let go more. So that got me thinking…. what does it actually mean to let go?

First thought – I think of Sylvester Stallone holding on to a man in cliffhanger, trying to save his life. The mans glove loosens and he falls to his demise. Is that letting go?

Second thought – On an episode of Gotham, Jim Gordon let’s Barbara, his ex-fiancee, while trying to save her from falling out of a window. Only difference is she was originally trying to kill him. She went insane and this time letting go was releasing her from the wrong turn her life had come to be.

Third thought – a song written by DeWayne Woods called, Let Go:

As soon as I stop worrying,
Worrying how the story ends.
When I let go and I let God
Let God have his way
That’s when things start happening
When I stopped looking at back then

These reflections taught me several things

  1. Sometimes it is critical for us to hold on. Maybe not for our own sake, but for the sake of another. Possibly someone else is really in need of our help we need to keep a tight grasp and not let them go.
  2. Sometimes we hold to something we shouldn’t. Things that have a strong sentiment from the past can be hard to let go of. It takes a lot of courage and wisdom to realize when something is no longer good for us. We might be wasting a lot energy trying to hold on. That energy could be put into something else.
  3. Letting go means facing what is – now. I sometimes fill my mind with thoughts about “what if.” There are too many possibilities to sort through. The possibilities of possibilities jumble my mind and create anxiety. In order to let go I need to

take a breath,
acknowledge the fact that things may not go right in the end,
consider what has gone right up to this point,
be grateful for that,
remind myself of my purpose and focus,
then move forward with what I can do right now,

The hardest part for me is acknowledging that things may go all wrong in the end. Is it the same for you?

Let me know your thoughts.

In the mean time, here are some handpicked shares to make you think even more.

 

Attituning: Mind


 

What will you tell others

A short snippet meant for marketers, but interesting to think about in our own daily life.

via sethgodin.typepad.com

Spot that contingency

“Hundreds of psychology studies have proven that we tend to overestimate the importance of events we can easily recall and underestimate the importance of events we have trouble recalling.” Making a contingency table is a good way to discover where you are making assumptions or are misguided in your thinking. 

via jamesclear.com

Tune in to that inner voice

Listen to your inner voice. Not only is it there to protect you, but it can guide you toward people, places, information, and ideas that can transform your life.”

via tinybuddah.com

Attituning: Body


How to get back in tune with your body

Being aware of your physical self is also important. Learning how to tune in to what your body needs takes effort and action. Practicing tai chi has been an excellent exercise for me to tune into my body. Other ideas to consider: getting a massage, taking a brisk walk in nature, acupuncture and many more.

via mindbodygreen.com

The breath that takes your cake cravings away

I never thought about using breathing exercises to curb cravings. Well, apparently there is a way.

via mindbodygreen.com 

Attituning: Location independence


Finding time to blog and write

I’ve met quite a few people who tell me they want to start a blog one day. For some reason they never do. I’m putting together a new course on creating a website or blog easily, called Make. WordPress. Simple. I’m pretty sure people will respond with the challenge, “I would do it if I had the time.” Well this post from problogger might help.

via problogger.net

Yoga by JetBlue

Interesting offering by the JetBlue team. They are now having free yoga sessions at JFK airport.

via mindbodygreen.com

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